
Talk to our kids is something that sometimes makes us very ashamed on things they ask us. Kids don’t really think about anything, whatever they want to ask they do it. That is their natural instinct of curiosity when building up their knowledge or making their beliefs stronger. Have you ever felt embarrassed when your kids asked you something? Do you have dialogue with them? Are you open to any kind of talking like sex? How is the environment in your house? But do you listen to them? Are you the kind of patient or have no patience at all with them? Know that your behavior and actions are being copied or analyzed by your kids which later on will affect deeply on their selves, society, and your peace when they grow. so here are some tips to make things better on your life and house with them.
1. Start Early
Before anyone else put lots of wrong informations on their minds, you as a parent has a great opportunity to do it. Talk often and as earlier as possible about tough issues like sex, HIV/AIDS, violence, alcohol and drugs, etc…
2. Initiate Conversations
You gotta be smart to initiate a conversation and discuss the problems with you children. For example, if you’re watching a TV program with your child and they plot the topic teen pregnancy, it’s a great opportunity to start a conversation and see what you child thinks about it. But, if you have more than one kid and the other is a bit older talk to them in different places, because the older one tend to talk more and will dominate the situation so, would prevent the young one to speak up and express his/her thoughts.
3 - Talk About Taboos, Sex and Relationships
For God sake be courageous and talk about those issues. Try to overcome the nervousness and difficulties and bring up the topics because your kids are hearing it anyway through the media and on the playground with the others. Thus, is your chance to make things clearly.
4 . Create Open Environment
“If your child asks how many people exist with HIV don’t say simply I don’t know, finish your lunch, say things like I don’t know but that is an interesting question let’s look up after your lunch,” “or if your 10-year-old asks ” “Mom what’s a condom? while you’re negotiating a tricky turn in rush-hour traffic, it’s perfectly okay for you to say something like, “That’s an important question. But with all this traffic, I can’t explain right now. Let’s talk later, after dinner.” And make sure you do.”
5. Express Your Values
It’s a good opportunity to talk about drugs and violence before anyone else can confuse he/she with facts that lack the sense of values and moral principles. Make sure to make your beliefs clear.
6. Listen to Your Child
How many times we listen to them, even when we’re pushing a supermarket car or if we’re folding clothes and they start to talk don’t ignore them, listen carefully what they have to say, because it helps to build their self-esteem, in the sense that they feel important to us and if they ask you what crack is, before you answer ask him/her what he/she thinks it is. If he says, “I think it’s something you eat that makes you act funny,” then you have a clue of his level of understanding so, you can adjust your explanations to fit.
Listening to our children and taking their feelings into account also helps us understand when they’ve had enough. Suppose you’re answering your 9-year-old’s questions about AIDS. If after a while, he says, “I want to go out and play,” stop the talk and start the subject at another time. Remember be patient, “use everyday opportunities to talk and talk again, again and again because patience and persistence will serve you and your child well.”